RELATIONSHIP 2

Hmmmm, so It occurred to me while working on today's post to give a big picture of the journey we are taking together.
THE JOURNEY
- Knowledge, what we need to know before starting a relationship
- Chase, taking action to win the one you need, the male and the female perspective
- The relationship, building a relationship that works.
- Marriage more like the advanced relationship, the point where you move from masters, to phd and then become a professor in marriage.
I can't give a time line because this is  a never ending topic. Some points we will revisit, some, we will stay longer dealing with issues.

I was encouraged to do this because one of my readers is taking action on a project she's been lackadaisical about, wish her a safe journey.
So moving on from yesterday where we highlighted the following points on relationship

1. You cannot do without a relationship
2. You need to know why you want to be in a relationship
3. Relationship cost money
The 4th point.
Relationship is hardwork. If you think you can't handle the idea of caring for someone else, you should not be. In a relationship. It is like servicing a client, you do everything possible to keep that client and you do that every single day for the rest of your life, especially when you are married. Relationship requires awareness, conscious effort which is worked on daily. You must be ready to work hard on your relationship.
5. Relationship is Sacrifice. I once asked a friend what love is. Let me ask you. WHAT IS LOVE? I will treat your answers in my next post. You will have to be able place the needs of your partner before yours in all kinds of situation as little as agreeing to have a meal he/she prefers to as serious as putting everything you are doing aside just to attend to his/her needs. Relationship will require that you are selfless, you will always have to put the other person's needs before yours.

6. Tolerance. You will be required to tolerate the other person. Fundamentally, the 2 people coming together are from different backgrounds, understand that. Your orientation, way of life, thought process, habits, wants, cravings, strengths, weaknesses, dress sense, endurance, TV programme preference, likes, dislikes, family orientation etc ARE DIFFERENT, you need to KNOW that, and work with it throughout the relationship.
 It will help you make informed adjustment not some unrealistic change as some people demand.



7. No Relationship is perfect. Guys, please don't let nobody fool you to believe there is a perfect one. As much as people try to keep it 100, no relationship is without its peculiar issues. You need to know this. Don't let Instagram pictures fool you to believe it's so smooth, rather see them as couples who are striving for excellence in their relationship...and that's good.
In as much as I am saying none is perfect, don't go in with the idea that makes you feel okay when you have issues arise in your relationship, NO!!!
When that time comes and issues crop up FIX IT!!!! IMMEDIATELY!!!!

To be continued tomorrow.
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