I'd like to share my story. I'm 24, he's 19. I'm already working, he's still a student. I'm a Muslim, he's Catholic. It was very wrong from the very beginning yet I still pushed through it. I have a learned a few years ago from his cousin, who was my friend, that he really liked me. I didn't give much thought about it because I was significantly older than him and thought it was just a teenage crush. A few years later we started to chat on Facebook and one thing lead to another until he was calling and texting me everyday and every night. He was really persuasive in asking to give him a chance and that he would do everything to get me. After 5 months of courting, we were officially together. I had doubts I tell you but at that point in our relationship I really came to care for him and started to like him a lot but I did not think I really loved him that much. 6 months into our relationship, we had a big fight about my gay friend whom he was really jealous of (take note, he doesn't believe my friend was gay). So into the fight, I kind of broke up with but did not really mean it. It was just my way for us to stop fighting but called me on my bluff and agreed to it saying he was really hurt that I did it after all I did. I, on the other hand, did not think I did something wrong. That was my friend and he was gay for Christ-sake. A few days into the break up I tried to get back with him but he turned really cold and won't hear me out. I even cried my heart out in front of him, which I never did to anyone ever before. I told him I realized my mistakes and for him to please forgive me and take me back. So he took me back. But a few days later, felt something was off. He was not calling me as much and not replying to my texts immediately like he used to. I have this feeling in my gut that he was busy calling and texting someone else. And oh, did I mention we were long distance? We were roughly two hours travel apart. Going back, I kind of confronted him about it. At first he denied but admitted to it later on saying that they were no longer texting and that he was just seeing her when we were on a break and now that were back together he would stop communicating with her. Another month had passed after getting back together and I learned that he saw her again. I was kind of stalking her on Instagram and saw a post about them eating a burger. Ha! We fought about it again and I ended up forgiving him. Another month after that, no episode of that other woman so far, I was hanging out with some of my friends and one of them told me that he saw my boyfriend dining with the girl I mentioned before. I was really devastated upon hearing that. I thought we were okay already. I thought he stopped seeing her. Yet when I confronted him about it again he was vehement in denying it and said that he would kill the bastard who told me. Yes he said that. But I refused to talk to him again. For a week he kept calling and texting me saying I shouldn't give up on us. The following weekend after I learned about that latest news, I was ready to talk to him. I was waiting for his call so that we can take. Turned out, I waited in vain. I learned that he was already going out with her and might be courting the girl already. Is it possible for a heart to be broken over and over again in a span of three months? I should have listened to my friends and family. They against us from the very beginning. Now, a day into the final break up and I'm lost. I can't eat, I can't sleep. It's all so surreal to me now. I'm literally tearing up writing this right now. It's all still so fresh. I'm like in day 1 and I want to get over this feeling already. I'm so miserable and I feel like I'm dying over and over again it hurts so bad. I know a lot of people had it worse than me but it does not lessen the pain I'm feeling. I'm willing to move on but I don't know how to start. I've read a million articles about coping up with heartbreaks and moving on but I can't seem to internalize them right now. I just hope somebody reads this and give some encouragement. Thank you guys.
Saturday, 2 January 2016
CAN I SURVIVE THIS HEART BREAK? (COMMENT, YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP THIS READER)
I'd like to share my story. I'm 24, he's 19. I'm already working, he's still a student. I'm a Muslim, he's Catholic. It was very wrong from the very beginning yet I still pushed through it. I have a learned a few years ago from his cousin, who was my friend, that he really liked me. I didn't give much thought about it because I was significantly older than him and thought it was just a teenage crush. A few years later we started to chat on Facebook and one thing lead to another until he was calling and texting me everyday and every night. He was really persuasive in asking to give him a chance and that he would do everything to get me. After 5 months of courting, we were officially together. I had doubts I tell you but at that point in our relationship I really came to care for him and started to like him a lot but I did not think I really loved him that much. 6 months into our relationship, we had a big fight about my gay friend whom he was really jealous of (take note, he doesn't believe my friend was gay). So into the fight, I kind of broke up with but did not really mean it. It was just my way for us to stop fighting but called me on my bluff and agreed to it saying he was really hurt that I did it after all I did. I, on the other hand, did not think I did something wrong. That was my friend and he was gay for Christ-sake. A few days into the break up I tried to get back with him but he turned really cold and won't hear me out. I even cried my heart out in front of him, which I never did to anyone ever before. I told him I realized my mistakes and for him to please forgive me and take me back. So he took me back. But a few days later, felt something was off. He was not calling me as much and not replying to my texts immediately like he used to. I have this feeling in my gut that he was busy calling and texting someone else. And oh, did I mention we were long distance? We were roughly two hours travel apart. Going back, I kind of confronted him about it. At first he denied but admitted to it later on saying that they were no longer texting and that he was just seeing her when we were on a break and now that were back together he would stop communicating with her. Another month had passed after getting back together and I learned that he saw her again. I was kind of stalking her on Instagram and saw a post about them eating a burger. Ha! We fought about it again and I ended up forgiving him. Another month after that, no episode of that other woman so far, I was hanging out with some of my friends and one of them told me that he saw my boyfriend dining with the girl I mentioned before. I was really devastated upon hearing that. I thought we were okay already. I thought he stopped seeing her. Yet when I confronted him about it again he was vehement in denying it and said that he would kill the bastard who told me. Yes he said that. But I refused to talk to him again. For a week he kept calling and texting me saying I shouldn't give up on us. The following weekend after I learned about that latest news, I was ready to talk to him. I was waiting for his call so that we can take. Turned out, I waited in vain. I learned that he was already going out with her and might be courting the girl already. Is it possible for a heart to be broken over and over again in a span of three months? I should have listened to my friends and family. They against us from the very beginning. Now, a day into the final break up and I'm lost. I can't eat, I can't sleep. It's all so surreal to me now. I'm literally tearing up writing this right now. It's all still so fresh. I'm like in day 1 and I want to get over this feeling already. I'm so miserable and I feel like I'm dying over and over again it hurts so bad. I know a lot of people had it worse than me but it does not lessen the pain I'm feeling. I'm willing to move on but I don't know how to start. I've read a million articles about coping up with heartbreaks and moving on but I can't seem to internalize them right now. I just hope somebody reads this and give some encouragement. Thank you guys.
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