So, I have given you 7 points, sharing with you what you need to know about relationship before getting into it. Just like Will Smith kept saying in the movie "Focus" (you should see it) "You really need to be more aware" I put it you...to everyone reading this, we really need to be more aware about things we want to get into. Business, Banking, travelling....etc. Just like the holy book said, who is he that buildeth without 1st counting the cost.
This is one of the reasons I am sharing this. So, let's go!
8. Relationship requires learning. You don't go into a relationship with the mentality that you know everything, your level of hunger for success in the relationship you want to get into will determine how much you learn and how ready you are to learn. I have read books on dating, knowing who you are, temperament, getting married...etc. Get books and read, you will be shocked at the level of of knowledge you acquire when you do.
9. You need to know what you can handle, what you can overlook and what you stand for. Basically your Standards. People say they have standards, cool. But identify or tell us those things that make up your standards, then it's "huston, we have a problem"
Check this out. When I asked my finance for date, that was when we first met, withing 20 minutes of our conversation, I asked her, "what is your genotype" she was shocked but I knew what I was driving at. I have had painful experiences with issues around genotype so I had to know...and know asap.
Please, let your standard circle around values, health, communication, things that majorly affect the future, your future together and not so much physical things, money, car, outlook etc. They are good yes! But they should not make up your standard. Put money in the hands of some broke dude and he will blow your mind, that money in the hands of that bouyant lady and she's still breaking hearts. Well, just saying.
10. What is your relationship foundation going to evolve from? Where is the place of religion, family, the major factors that can affect your decision in choosing a guy or a lady to go into relationship with.
You started dating and so you had to take him/her to meet your folks. After that you parents call you and say "you can't marry that girl/guy ooo" chaos then begin. I will say it is always better to marry with the full support of your folks, trust me.
You are from a religious home, you bring him/her to meet your folks, you are redirected to your pastor, you pastor say, what is God telling you?
You know you have to be able to answer that question before the relationship is given a green light. As negligent as we might be about this issue, they are very sensitive issues that should be considered when you have made up your mind and you want to take that step.
When I was going through the blog yesterday, my colleague and I discussed about a nice guy, right there, a topic flashed in my mind which I will like to talk about soon. "The Mr Nice Guy Syndrome" watch out!!!
Please ruminate over the points we have shared. Send in your questions then we move on to the next stage. "The Chase"
Take Care
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Some real and deep issues in here....nice article
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